Reflections on the Birth of my Third Daughter

“On behalf of every man
Looking out for every girl
You are the God and weight of her world

So fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers be good to your daughters too” – John Mayer
I remember the first time I heard this song by John Mayer. I didn’t get it.
Now that I have three daughters, it’s almost haunting how Christ-like these lyrics are for a father.
Whenever Ashlie and I had our first daughter, Aubrielle, I was struck with a thought, one that has shaped how I teach my classes, talk to my wife, and interact with my children:
If I can’t talk about God to my children in a way they understand, I have no right talking about God to adults.
For some, this is obvious – not so to others.
This is why I ask my daughters, “How did you get to know Jesus better today?” rather than “What did you learn about Jesus?” when we meet after Sunday service and I pick them up from the nursery.  God is not an idea, but a person, an objective reality who changes everything when you experience his presence. I’m preparing them for their encounters with God.
Now, with three daughters, Aubrielle, Aumerie, and Auria, I am once again confronted with the simple yet foundational idea:
If I can’t talk about God to my children in a way they understand, I have no right talking about God to adults.
Why is this so important?
Primarily, my job is to teach my children about the reality of God.
Secondarily, my job is to keep them alive.
Tertiarily, my job is to prepare them to live with out parents, but not without community.
Now, depending on the age and situation, these can flip flop easily. But they cannot be ignored.
The greatest good I can do my children is to teach them, show them, remind them, live for them, the reality of God.
I am blessed with a glorious purpose and responsibility. All fathers are.
So fathers, be good to your daughters.

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